You Don’t Feel Like Yourself After Baby (And Why That’s Normal)
You had the baby. Everyone is dropping off casseroles, sending “congratulations” texts, and telling you how happy you must be. And sure, there are sweet moments. But if you’re being honest? You feel nothing like yourself. You’re crying in the shower, snapping at your partner over nothing, and googling “am I a bad mom?” at 2am while the baby refuses to sleep.
Here’s the truth no one puts on Instagram:
you’re not broken. You’re human.
The Perfect Storm After Baby
Motherhood isn’t just diapers and baby snuggles. It’s your hormones swinging like a wrecking ball, your nervous system running on no sleep, and society whispering in your ear that “good moms” never struggle. That combo? It can tip anyone into anxiety or depression.
Some moms call it the baby blues, others talk about postpartum anxiety or postpartum depression. But even if you don’t have a diagnosis, you might feel:
- On edge all the time, like something bad is about to happen.
Overwhelmed by small things (a sink of bottles feels like the end of the world). - Guilty for not loving every second
- Totally unlike yourself—like the old you is gone.
Sound familiar? Yeah. You’re not the only one.
It Feels So Lonely
The biggest lie of new motherhood is that you’re supposed to “just know” what to do. When you don’t, the shame creeps in fast. And because nobody wants to admit they’re struggling, it feels like you’re the only one drowning.
But here’s the thing: so many new moms feel this way. They just aren’t saying it out loud.
You Don’t Have to White-Knuckle It
Healing doesn’t mean faking positivity or “just being grateful.” Healing means support. It means learning how to calm your anxious brain, regulate your emotions, and actually enjoy parts of motherhood without guilt hanging over your head.
And the fastest way to do that? Community.
Ready to Breathe Again? Let’s Do This.
If this all sounds a little too real, it’s because I’ve sat with so many moms who’ve whispered these same fears out loud. And every time, I’ve watched the relief wash over them when someone else nods and says, “Me too.”
That’s why I created a 10-week Adjusting After Baby Counseling Group. It’s a space where you can show up messy, anxious, tired, and completely yourself—and walk away with tools, confidence, and a community that actually gets it.
If you’re ready to stop drowning and start feeling like yourself again, join us. You deserve this.